“The Expert”

bored

If you spend a number of years doing something (getting more experienced, learning things, doing mistakes), you start to know what works and what doesn’t, what is good and what is bad. Even if you aren’t that good at the beginning.

Some people will acknowledge this, some won’t. And that is alright, because you can’t know everything and you can always make mistakes.

If someone ask for your opinion you try your best to let them know what you think, because you are a nice person.
And you tell them once, twice, even a tree times. But some people can get over the fact that they are wrong. So what do you do then?

If you got the choice, you just let them be and do what they want. If not, you listen to their opinions, tell them yours, listen to them telling you that you are wrong and how things should be done and then you do what they want. Even if you know that is not the best solution or even a good one.

After a few months they come back to you and ask what is wrong, why aren’t people using it, why is everyone hatting it, why aren’t people more engaged.
And you tell them again what you’ve told them a few months ago.

Then nothing changes..

 

Some of you may know this, if not watch it, the video illustrates perfect the situation.

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“The Emperor has no clothes”

I must admit that when I was young I read less than most of the kids. (maybe it’s because I first learned how to do math and reading came about 3 years later)
But even so I already had a few favorites books. And I can remember them even 25 years later.

One of those books is called The Emperor’s New Clothes and it was written by Hans Christian Andersen.

For those of you who don’t know the story, here is the summary from Wikipedia:

A vain Emperor who cares about nothing except wearing and displaying clothes hires two weavers who promise him the finest, best suit of clothes from a fabric invisible to anyone who is either unfit for his position or “hopelessly stupid”. The Emperor’s ministers cannot see the clothes themselves, but pretend that they can for fear of appearing unfit for their positions, and the Emperor does the same. Finally, the weavers report that the suit is finished, they mime dressing him, and the Emperor marches in procession before his subjects. The townsfolk play along with the pretense, not wanting to appear unfit for their positions or stupid. Then, a child in the crowd, too young to understand the desirability of keeping up the pretense, blurts out that the Emperor is wearing nothing at all, and the cry is taken up by others. The Emperor suspects the assertion is true but continues the procession.

I don’t know why Hans Christian Andersen wrote this and what was the social situation then. But I can see a lot of similarities these days.

Growing up I always knew it never was a good idea to directly express what I thought. Even though it was true.
Honesty is appreciated only when people agree with you. If your opinion is contrary with their beliefs, you’re gonna have a bad time. Even though you are right. People don’t want the truth, people want comfortable lies that reinforce their opinions and their way of living.

I think in life you have moments when you like having popular opinions, but I also believe that as you get older you just don’t care that much about other people feelings.

And in a way I always liked being the one backing up unpopular opinions if they were true.

But for must people it is really hard to tell that “the emperor has no clothes”, even if they see it with their eyes. They don’t want to offend their friends, or their colleagues, or their managers. They just want to be accepted, be part of the crowd.

I think we need more kids calling bullshit when they see it.

And don’t get me started with diplomacy. An apple is an apple, even if you call it apple or malus domestica.

malus domestica

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“Screw It, Let’s Do It”

I started reading “Screw It, Let’s Do It” by Richard Branson. I was a little circumspect when I got the book, didn’t know if I will enjoy it. But man .. this is such a great and fun book to read. It just gives you a nice boost of energy and it awakens in you a desire to do stuff.

While I was reading the book it got me thinking about myself, how I am living and what I do with my life, job, if I’m really enjoying myself. And in a way I can say that yes, I really am.
Is there room for improvement? Yes ! A hell of lot of it.
But I’m doing my best.

I think that the thing that always gets me going is that I get bored really fast and I always feel the need to be challenged, to learn things and do stuff.

My first job was in a bookstore. Selling books and other stuff. It was a really fun place and I had great colleagues. But I was paid close to nothing, little less than 200 euro per month. So the small salary and the routine made me quit in about 6 months.

Second job. I got a sales job in a small IT company. First thing I did there? Putting invoices in envelopes and sending them to customers. Pay was a little better (not much more) and I knew I will be learning a lot of things. And I really did.

When I left, after almost 3 years, I was working as a Project Manager, running projects worth millions of euro, implementing ERP (enterprise resource planning) systems that were used by hundreds of thousands of people.
After 3 years there, doing all the things I did, I can say that if I will ever be in position to run a company, I’ve got the knowledge to do it.

While I was working there I got bored again so I thought I want to learn how to build websites. I had some knowledge from school, but didn’t knew that much. So I started learning HTML, CSS, some JavaScript and a lot of things about building things on the web.
In short time I was already having some small gigs and making some extra money.

I was having fun creating websites, so I thought that maybe I can get a job. So I quit my job prepared to look for something else and with enough money for about 3 months.
It took me less than a week to get an offer and I said yes. It was from my current work place where I work as a Web Designer.

Fast forward to January 2017 (almost 2 years later). What I do right now beside my daily job?

  • have some fun on freeCodeCamp, learning things about web development
  • enroled in a nanodegree program from Udacity, learning Android development (got a scholarship, and I’m really grateful for it)
  • learning to play a xylophone and it is a lot of fun
  • learning German
  • part of a team at work and we are building an AR prototype
  • learning more about design (and will maybe move to a UX design position)
  • a lot more stuff

And all of this just because I get bored easily.

Is it hard? Yes.
Is it fun? Yes.
Do I got the right skills for all this things? Unfortunately, no ..
Will I succeed in doing all of them? I don’t know and I don’t care that much. I want to do them and I do them.

My point. Read “Screw It, Let’s Do It” by Richard Branson. Start doing anything you want to do. It is worth it, you will find your place in this world and things will get better and better.

grass growing

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